When I reflect on my boy’s childhood, I honestly feel like I failed at spending quality time with them. Sure, we went on family vacations, I took them to the park and of course we had our annual trips to Knott’s Berry Farm or Disneyland. However, I was so consumed with building my career I honestly missed out on sharing experiences with them and watching them growing up.
Ultimately, I lived with “mom guilt” for most of my boy’s young lives. I felt guilty about spending too much time at work. When I started working from home, I felt guilty about spending too much time building the business., I found out I was pregnant with my daughter Joy. At that point, I made a vow to myself that I would set time aside each day for her. Do I accomplish this goal every day? Of course not!
But eventually, I (kind of) overcame my mom guilt by taking the following actions:
1) I start the day with a smile and thank God for blessing me with three healthy, and beautiful kids.
Each and every morning when you wake up, remember to look in the mirror and smile as you thank God for blessing you with kids because there are so many women that wish they had kids and are unable to for numerous reason.
2) I make it a point to unplug from the world and spend time with them each week. I like to plan mommy and me playdates with my daughter. I also make it a point to spend time with my son’s even though they’re both in college now. My boy and I like to watch certain shows as a family. One of our favorite show is “America’s Got Talent”.
Try scheduling out time in your planner for your kids. At first, you may feel guilty doing this, nonetheless, it will help you make it a routine without feeling overwhelmed. During this time put your cellphone in a different room of the house so you won’t be distracted by social media or tempted to read emails.
3) When I go to bed at night I think about everything I have accomplished that day.
Give yourself a little credit for a job well done. So, no matter if it was just spending 10 minutes in the car talking with your child about their day, or helping them draw a masterpiece during their bath time with the crayon soaps you bought them at Target. Celebrate those moments because those are memories you are building with your child on the fly.
I hope you found my tips above helpful.
I would love for you to share in the comments below how you deal with mom guilt? I know by you sharing your thoughts it can help another mom.
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